Introduction The enamoured also test whether or not they have found the right person, someone to enrich their lives and protect them from harm. By virtue of how the indirect gambit is designed, the individual also receives positive affirmation from someone with the very personal traits needed. The following (loosely retold) fairy tale may serve … [Read more…]
Order of Succession The contact rebus has a multi-layer structure in which each type of test gradually deepens the relationship. All layers of depth are needed to construct a relationship. One can thus say that the contact rebus is designed in an order of succession. So, for example, the compliance rebus might be followed by … [Read more…]
Reducing Distance Each time the lovers-to-be interact with each other, they receive more answers to their questions. When the contact gambit meets with a positive response, they move that little bit closer to each other and their feelings, and in this way gradually build up a relationship. Each positive response to a test strengthens their … [Read more…]
The enamoured also test whether or not they have found the right person, someone to enrich their lives and protect them from harm. By virtue of how the indirect gambit is designed, the individual also receives positive affirmation from someone with the very personal traits needed (Motivational Work part 1: Values and Theory, pages 109 … [Read more…]
Expression of Feelings The fundamental drive is one of contact and not defense, and it is to this end that we adopt these indirect romantic maneuvers, or mutually targeted indirect gambits. Our covert advances are an unwitting and indirect expression of our feelings for another person and offer an opportunity for this other person to … [Read more…]
